The New Rules for Dating in 2025

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As a single girlie, my social media feeds are inundated with influencers trying to tell me how to date. A lot of them are trying to sell me some sort of “better” dating app or consulting service to perfect my profile. But then there’s a cohort that are discussing — in good faith — how we as women should be approaching dating in this modern age. Accounts like We Met at Acme have a literal list of rules for women to keep in mind when dating in the era of apps. And one of my favorite influencers, Tinx, just had a podcast episode on her own rules for dating in 2025 that I listened to the other day. 

I personally love these particular creators (great follows, btw), but what I’ve noticed is that lately, my feed has started to feel like it’s being poisoned by other, less open-minded accounts who are 1. Shouting from the rooftops that both men and dating are trash, and 2. Simultaneously trying to give you explicit instructions on how to navigate the supposed cesspool. I understand that I must be subconsciously engaging with enough dating related content to make IG or TT believe this might be what I want to hear. But the reality is that I don’t. And it’s starting to get on my nerves. 

I’ve talked a little about how I feel that approaching dating (or anything tbh) with such a decidedly negative attitude is a recipe for failure — if you want a separate post on that lmk in the comments. But in the midst of so many people trying to tell us how to navigate and even how to feel about our personal lives, I want to take it one step further:

No one can write the rules for your life other than you. 

I understand it might be helpful to seek out specific standards — especially in the age of dating apps — so that you can more easily navigate the ups and downs of dating in 2025. But at the end of the day the only “rules” that matter are the ones that make you feel happy and secure in your own personal life. To that end, I wrote my own list of dating GUIDELINES that I hope will help some of you who like to bitch to me over martinis (ilysm xx) think about the broken system that is modern courtship. 

This one was a little long, so click below to read the non-rules for 2025, starting with #1: it doesn’t matter how you meet your person, only that you do.

We’re also bringing back our regular book recommendations here at Revellations! Starting with the latest romance from a friend of mine, Ali Rosen. I love celebrating my friends when they do literally anything, but when they publish a novel?! x1000000

Unlikely Story is the perfect recommendation for this week not just because it was just published and I want to help Ali make it a hit, but also because it deals with romance in a fun and unique way on a day when we’re talking about modern dating here at Revellations. In Unlikely Story, we meet relationship therapist Nora as she admits an embarrassing secret to her own therapist — she’s in love with a man she’s never met. Between navigating this secret and discovering that the bitter ex-boyfriend of one of her clients just moved in downstairs, Nora’s life is full of unexpected surprises.

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